Yesterday, I wrote this throwaway post about how Chris Brown said “fuck the haters!” in which I pointed out that people don’t hate him because he was a scrappy underdog, they hate him because he beat his ex-girlfriend and that police reports made it very clear that he was trying to kill her. And then I got this e-mail from a woman:

Hi. I just wanted you to know that this is bullying . Chris brown made a mistake which he has apologized and is reaping the consequences for those actions. Let the man live his life before he decides to do something drastic that he thinks will get everyone’s off his back. Your no better than people who bully others because they’re gay or different. You need to look into the NoH8 (no hate) campaign to learn something.

Look, let’s put aside the fact that manic pixie dream girls are inherently irritating, because the purpose of a woman’s life is not to make a boring accountant realize that he should run around naked in traffic. Unless that is her job, somehow. Unless it’s some sort of life coaching thing. Then I guess… life coaching is a field that really exists, in the real world, that real people pay for. People make choices. But that is never the case with manic pixie dream girls in the movies or television, because they never seem to have calculated career paths. They don’t want career paths! They just want to live!

That’s fine. That trope has existed for a very, very long time. The problem is not that that trope exists, it’s that it’s getting worse. …