3 notes

Shared money is naturally contentious. It’s human nature to feel protective of a joint pot of dough, and when one contributor seems to draw more than the other, things can get judge-y. My husband is a photographer, and although he doesn’t fritter away his money on gear, he will drop several thousand on a new camera, lens, or computer every so often. If he had to clear those purchases with me, it would strain our relationship, no doubt. As for me? I’m the fritterer. I have a collection of shoes that is slowly taking over our tiny 1925 bungalow and a nasty thrifting habit. My husband isn’t a judgmental man, but he’d have every right to judge me for my purchasing behaviors if they put his financial safety at risk. Separate bank accounts means I never have to hear him say, “But you already HAVE shoes.

3 notes

The guys I have dated have all made less than me, some significantly. It hasn’t been a problem for me, but it has been an issue for many of them. All that has done is made it clearer to me that the right man for me is not necessarily someone who makes as much or more money than I do, but is comfortable making less and knows the most valuable contributions to a relationship have nothing to do with money.