Posts tagged Friendship
Posts tagged Friendship
It’s easiest to befriend people who live near to you, spend loads of time with you, and have similar experiences and temperaments to yours. Proximity and common ground foster close relationships, support networks, and mutual understanding. We love the ones we’re with, especially when we’re young.
Real talk: a lot of people are really bad at selling themselves online dating. Have you seen OK Cupid Enemies? Have you read Annals Of Online Dating? From their profile pics to their self-descriptions to their harebrained “what up girl i wanna get wit u” messages, they almost make it too easy. Too easy to stay single, I mean. So I’m going to suggest something uncomfortable: I’m going to suggest you show your online dating profile, everything in your online dating profile, to a trusted friend and ask for an honest assessment of what you’re doing wrong.
#4. Her husband is like your brother. One of the longstanding jokes between my best friend and myself is that I’d rather have sex with my brother than with her husband. Do I mean that literally? NO. The point, though, is that she and I are close enough – and her husband and I are close enough – that the notion of the actions feels equally deviant.
#3 Stay strong. Stick to your guns. If you want space, take it. Don’t let your friend talk you into a situation you’re not happy with. Hear them out, but remember: if someone has been a negative force in your life for years, their last-ditch promise to change probably doesn’t carry much weight. It’s not fun to end platonic or romantic relationships, but staying true to yourself will be so worth it in the end.
#7 It’s harder to make new friends as an adult, but the ones you do develop can be some of the best. I made my first best friend when I was in 1st grade and we were assigned seats next to each other. That was all it took to make us inseparable. It’s not that simple as an adult. Without school throwing your peer group together for eight hours a day, making friends is largely done at work or through recreational activities. Even if you’re lucky enough to work with people your own age, the priorities of adulthood make developing new friendships a slower process. That’s why the ones you do develop can be so meaningful — you wanted to put effort and time into it, rather than having it done for you as a result of circumstance.