Posts tagged BDSM
“Lifestyle” is a coded word for “choice,” as in “Liberace was just choosing to be gay!” Nobody chooses to be gay. Nobody chooses to be kinky. These things are innate, subject to the whims of chance. Dare I say it? We are born this way. A lot of kinksters (and a lot of gay folks) will tell you that they had curious inklings and arousals in childhood. Even if they could not conceptualize these curiosities as a sexual interest, they knew they were intrigued by tying people up or they knew they were attracted to boys more than girls. That’s quite different from the person who dabbles in outre behavior by choice — the ”straight” person can choose to engage in homosexual behavior and a “vanilla” person can choose to engage in kinky behavior and then go back and live their lives perfectly happy without doing it again. Not so for those of us whose sexuality is an orientation. I don’t consider my kinkiness a “lifestyle,” because it isn’t something that I can set aside without being unfulfilled and unhappy. It’s been my sexuality since I was a child, only revealing itself with more maturity into adulthood. Kinky is my sexual orientation, regardless of what anyone else thinks. (via The Soapbox: BDSM Is Not “Consensual Domestic Violence”)
6 Ways The New York Times (Of All Places) Got It Right About Kinky Sex
The plum gig as the screenwriter for the film adaptation of Fifty Shades Of Grey goes to … Kelly Marcel, who penned the forthcoming “Mary Poppins”-themed script, “Saving Mr. Banks.” (via “50 Shades” Screenplay To Be Penned By Female Screenwriter, Kelly Marcel - The Frisky)
Anti-Domestic Violence Groups Protest Vogue Homme’s Choking Cover
NOFX’s Fat Mike Talks His BDSM Lifestyle, Persecution For Being Kinky
“Call me in one hour and tell me your boyfriend dumped you,” I told my girl friend as we stood outside the movie theater where we had just seen “Magic Mike.” “If the party’s weird and I want to leave, I’ll say ‘Oh my God, are you okay? I’ll come meet you!’ Got it?” “Sure thing,” my friend promised. “I’m texting you the address I’m going to right now,” I told her, tapping on my iPhone. “Just in case these people turn out to be rapist-murderers.” “I’m sure they’ll be fine,” she soothed me. We hugged goodbye and parted at a street corner. “Have fun!” is what she called as I walked away. Have fun at your spanking party is what she meant.
“Mad Men” Creator Sheds Light On Don Draper’s S&M Sex Drive - The Frisky
“Don’s relationship — and [the] women in his life’s relationship[s] — between power and sex is very closely linked. And I think it’s part of the human experience. I think it’s an animal thing. Powerful men in particular seem to want to be controlled sexually. … I think what you’re seeing is that they do have a vibrant sex life, and she is controlling that part of it, and he likes it. And it’s the way they fight. And it’s kind of her saying to him, ‘You want to be this way? Then you can’t have this,’ and on some level wanting him to realize that he won’t get it. And what I love about it, and what I think is fresh, is that this woman is not judged afterward. It’s very rare for a woman to express that kind of sexual confidence and control and not be the prostitute, and be somebody’s wife and be in a relationship afterward. I’m both sexualizing their relationship and explaining her status in the relationship.”
