When reports surfaced about the fight between Chadvelyn (reportedly over a box of condoms), my first reaction was disbelief, then disappointment. For some reason, I really wanted Chadvelyn to work. Evelyn is one of my favorite reality TV vixens, and although her bitchy behavior on Vh1’s “Basketball Wives” is absurd, I have to admit that she is “good TV.” She plays her part and does exactly what she is paid to do. Yes, she is an evil bitch on the show, but that doesn’t mean she doesn’t deserve happiness in real life. Everyone knows that bitches need love too, right?
Wrong. As a matter of fact, many people felt that due to her violent behavior against other women on “Basketball Wives,” Evelyn finally got what she really deserved — an ass whooping. Chad was the true victim in this situation, and instead of undeservedly sitting in jail, he should be crowned the head-butting champion of the world!
Time and time again I saw tweets and Facebook statuses, mainly from black men, who to my surprise were celebrating Evelyn’s downfall. There seemed to be a resounding “ding-dong, the witch is dead” enthusiasm everywhere. “That’s what she gets. He should have beaten her ass,” coupled with “It’s about time” and “She’s been throwing bottles at chicks and now I am supposed to believe she is a victim?”
Well, yes. Is it that hard to believe that a woman like Evelyn could possibly be the victim of domestic violence, or any violence for that matter? When a rapper makes music about violence and killing, and in turn is murdered, none of these men would say he deserved to be killed. He becomes a martyr, a young talent full of brilliance, a life that is gone too soon. We obsess about solving the murder for years to come, and rightfully so, because in my opinion no one deserves violence — neither a rapper nor a reality show actress.
It’s disturbing to me that we live in a culture where anyone, but especially men, would celebrate when a woman is allegedly physically hurt by a man. To me, it speaks to a larger societal problem within the dynamics of male/female relationships. Especially between people of color.