#4 Do not give false hope to the dumpee. My least favorite thing to hear during breakups are “let’s be friends” or “who knows what will happen in the future.” Therefore, I will never be so insensitive as to utter these phrases. Ugh. I have plenty of friends without having some weird boundary blurring “friendship” with the person I used to sleep with. Maybe someday we will be friends, but not for a while. As far as leaving the door open for the future, we love to do that, don’t we? We love to think that we are keeping our options open for the universe to bring us back together when we are both “ready.” My personal feeling on that is: you get your chance with someone when you get your chance. You either make it happen then or you don’t. Getting caught up in “what we may be in the future” is a fantasy. Maybe someday your paths will cross again, but you need to move on with your life in the meantime. Stick with where you’re at right now. And right now, you’re breaking up.